All posts by Heather Nelson

Heather Nelson

About Heather Nelson

Heather resides in Rockland where she is busy juggling life as a newlywed, a mom to two boys (one of which who has autism), a part time job in direct sales, and a full-time job as a pediatric occupational therapy assistant. She has a love for live music, karaoke, and cheering on the underdogs.

The Rookie Mistakes of a Veteran Mother

Rookie Mistakesof theVeteran Mom

Brian started his first day of school on Monday.  First day of school with new staff, new programming, and a new school. We did all the pre-school work such as visits to the classroom, working with the new staff during ESY (Extended School Year) to acclimate to them, updating my “Brian Manual” that I pass […]

Are You Guilty of Promoting Learned Helplessness?

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In the field of special needs and occupational therapy we hear the term, “learned helplessness” a lot. Learned helplessness happens when parents or caregivers assume that their child can not be successful at something so they help them, because they love them and they care for them and they want life to be easy for […]

We go to Nature to have our Senses Put in Order

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A couple of weeks ago, my little family of four ventured out for a day-long expedition to Reid State Park. Like any outing, we do a lot of planning and preparing to ensure to the best of our abilities that Brian will have a fantastic time.  Because, we all find it easier to have a fantastic […]

Truth of the Matter: Change is Harder on Mom.

Truth of the Matter-Change is Harder on

Individuals with autism do not like change.  It can take a lot of effort to make their way through our sensory-rich environment, without having to navigate change. We use tools to help them, things like visual timers, visual schedules, social stories, and chaining. Last Friday, Brian graduated from the fourth grade.  Next year, he’ll be heading […]

Meltdown Vs. Temper Tantrum

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Here’s the thing about meltdowns. They are not a tantrum.  They are not manipulative feats to get what they want.  The individual with autism can not control it.  And they are not about you. I’ve been told: “Well, he’s getting too old for that.” “It wasn’t fair to (insert adult name here).  He didn’t do anything […]

How Do You Do It?

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If I had a dollar for every time someone asked me, “How do you do it?”, I’m pretty sure our house would be pretty close to being paid off. No joke. I get asked this question ALL the time. It’s a well-meaning question but it’s a tricky question. How do I not do it? I love my child, so we do it. Simple as that. I’m guessing most of the people that ask me that question would do the same if they were in our shoes. But here, here’s how we do it….

As Long As I’m Living, My Baby You’ll Be.

As long as I'm Living

This is how it is to be a special needs parent. To love and cherish every single second with your child. To accept and love every single part of them. And yet, still wish that things were different and always hoping for growth and change. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

Autism Sibling Superhero: The Winner of National Siblings Day

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In light of National Silbings Day….. Corbin is an Autism Sibling Superhero! He sticks up for his brother, the first time way back when he was in second grade and some “big kid” said that “autism kids were dumb”.  Corbin said he wanted to karate chop him but he didn’t and he remembered to instead teach […]

Growth and Happiness Is All The Therapy I Need

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Yesterday afternoon, despite our backyard still being covered in snow and the temperatures still hovering in the high 30s, we decided to spend time playing outside. We haven’t really had a chance to truly enjoy our backyard as we bought this house just as the snow was beginning to fall in the beginning of winter. […]