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Ten ways to fill your own cup

10Waysto Fillyour owncup

Last night, on my facebook page I shared an image that read: “You can’t pour from an empty cup.  Take care of yourself first.” How many times have you been told that, in some form or another, as a special needs parents?  Probably countless of times.  It sounds so good and so true but I […]

The Rookie Mistakes of a Veteran Mother

Rookie Mistakesof theVeteran Mom

Brian started his first day of school on Monday.  First day of school with new staff, new programming, and a new school. We did all the pre-school work such as visits to the classroom, working with the new staff during ESY (Extended School Year) to acclimate to them, updating my “Brian Manual” that I pass […]

Are You Guilty of Promoting Learned Helplessness?

Are You Guilty ofPromotingLearned Helplessness-

In the field of special needs and occupational therapy we hear the term, “learned helplessness” a lot. Learned helplessness happens when parents or caregivers assume that their child can not be successful at something so they help them, because they love them and they care for them and they want life to be easy for […]

We go to Nature to have our Senses Put in Order


A couple of weeks ago, my little family of four ventured out for a day-long expedition to Reid State Park. Like any outing, we do a lot of planning and preparing to ensure to the best of our abilities that Brian will have a fantastic time.  Because, we all find it easier to have a fantastic […]

Truth of the Matter: Change is Harder on Mom.

Truth of the Matter-Change is Harder on

Individuals with autism do not like change.  It can take a lot of effort to make their way through our sensory-rich environment, without having to navigate change. We use tools to help them, things like visual timers, visual schedules, social stories, and chaining. Last Friday, Brian graduated from the fourth grade.  Next year, he’ll be heading […]

How Do You Do It?

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If I had a dollar for every time someone asked me, “How do you do it?”, I’m pretty sure our house would be pretty close to being paid off. No joke. I get asked this question ALL the time. It’s a well-meaning question but it’s a tricky question. How do I not do it? I love my child, so we do it. Simple as that. I’m guessing most of the people that ask me that question would do the same if they were in our shoes. But here, here’s how we do it….

As Long As I’m Living, My Baby You’ll Be.

As long as I'm Living

This is how it is to be a special needs parent. To love and cherish every single second with your child. To accept and love every single part of them. And yet, still wish that things were different and always hoping for growth and change. And there’s nothing wrong with that.



When Brian was just a little past his second birthday, he received his first spectrum diagnosis of PDD-NOS (Pervasive Developmental Disorder- Not Otherwise Specified).  The woman who diagnosed him with this told me that she would’ve given him a full-out diagnosis of autism if he didn’t have such a strong connection to me. Throughout the […]